Sex Therapy

Sex is good for us – amongst other benefits it reduces blood pressure, promotes sleep, increases self-esteem, prolongs lifespan, enhances our deepest relationship and burns fat!

As a specialist working with couples I work with you to overcome sexual problems.

I can help you:

Increase sexual arousal for yourself and your partner
Have more satisfying and loving sexual experiences
Get your sexual and emotional needs met
Discover what turns you on – find your lost libido and start having sex again
Develop your own brand of romance and loving expression
Gain more sexual confidence
Heal from past experiences of sexual abuse or trauma
Develop healthy sexual behaviours after trauma, incest or rape
Address conflicts over hot topics such as Internet pornography, Internet sex or Internet chatting, jealousy, and inappropriate flirting
Handle sexual rejection

I also work with individuals where there is sexual dysfunction with no medical aetiology

Sexual compulsions and preoccupation
Sexual health and safety counselling
Erectile dysfunction ED
Pornography induced erectile dysfunction (PIED)
Premature ejaculation PE
Delayed ejaculation DE
Orgasmic difficulties
Painful orgasm
Painful sex
Libido and sexual desire issues
Non-consummation and sexual anorexia
Sexual fears
Vaginismus
Exhibitionism
Unwanted fetishes
Sexual addictions, including partners of sex addicts

I also work with mature Individuals

‘I believe that wonderfully exhilarating, intimate and erotic sex is not only for the young. Sex, which becomes less performance oriented as we age, can evolve into more joyful erotic connections as our self-awareness, self-confidence and experience increases.’

Basic sexual problems for men include, bluntly, not being able to get it up, not getting it in or just not being bothered. For women, penetrative sex can be uncomfortable, orgasm more difficult to achieve and interest in sex a distant memory. This can be the result of the body mechanics failing (physiological), passion dimming (psychological), or it might be a combination of factors. It may be a long term problem, or a recent development.

The body naturally changes as we mature; if we accept this with confidence and honesty it can still be appealing and sexy. However, sometimes embarrassment at our bodies, shame at our “performance”, illness or the death of a loved partner can create stumbling blocks and barriers. Left unresolved such issues can turn into major obstacles and the intimacy we yearn for may appear unattainable. At worst it might lead to the end of a relationship.

What to Expect in Sex Therapy

Firstly – It’s OK to ask for advice

Given the cultural upbringing and the inadequate sexual education that most people have experienced, experiencing a sexual problem is understandable. Additionally, we are bombarded by sexual content containing false information, unrealistic or unhealthy images and expectations which create potential difficulties in feeling good about our sex lives.

Most people at some stage in their lives experience sexual desire problems such as: loss of libido or desire for sex, lack of sexual enjoyment, difficulty experiencing orgasm, fear of sex, body image issues related to intimacy, erectile difficulties, compulsive sexual behaviours, pain, performance anxiety, mismatched sex drives in a relationship, or differences in sexual preferences.

Many of us assume that it won’t happen to us and, if it does, we then fear that the loss and embarrassment will last forever. As with many problems, however, resolution is speedier and there is less pain if you are armed with the necessary tools. It helps to talk openly about sexual concerns rather than suffering in silence; to learn to stop blaming yourself, be less defensive and more curious about resolving the problem. This is where a sex therapist can help.

In sex therapy, we address the root causes of sexual difficulties and find ways to modify them so you can resolve your sexual problems. Through education, counselling and proven sex therapy techniques, I can provide you with the knowledge, skills and strategies you need to make the changes necessary for you to achieve sexual health, wellbeing and better relationships.

When you come for sex therapy sessions either individually or as a couple our work together will generally involve two main objectives:

Gaining clarity about the specific issues behind your problem.
Choosing the appropriate strategies to help you overcome those issues and resolve your difficulties.

Our First Session

In our first sex therapy session, I will conduct an assessment of your situation by inviting you to talk about your sexual concerns and the changes you would like to make to improve your sex life.

We will then determine the course of action for our work together. We’ll discuss the most appropriate ways that we can ensure you achieve your goals towards having more fulfilling sexual experiences: individual or couples sessions, frequency of sessions, strategies, and referrals to other resources if needed.

Most clients say that they feel relief at the end of the first session. Getting your sexual concerns out in the open with a qualified professional, taking charge and finding out you are not alone in what you’re experiencing brings huge relief and a sense of hope that things can be different.

Subsequent Sessions

The following counselling sessions are about helping you understand the different factors that have contributed to developing and maintaining your sexual problems and finding ways to solve them. We’ll establish ways of helping you to take action and improve your sex and intimate life. From the start, I will provide the information you need for you to get a clearer picture on what’s going on and what factors might be keeping you today from resolving your situation.

As you have a better understanding of your situation, we will explore new ways of thinking, behaving or relating that will enable you to reach your therapy objectives.

Once you’re on your way to making the changes you want, the last step consists of consolidating these changes and making sure that you “stay on track”. I might suggest spacing out therapy sessions for a certain period, which would allow you to continue experiencing the positive changes that you have adopted while benefiting from support sessions.

Duration of Therapy

The duration of sex therapy depends on the nature of your problem, the type of objectives that you would like to set and your level of motivation in the therapeutic process. I will be more able to determine whether therapy will be short, medium or long term once the initial assessment has been completed. You can be assured that meeting your therapeutic objectives and getting relief from your discomfort is as important for me as it is for you since these are my main sources of professional satisfaction. And of course, it is always your choice to remain in therapy.

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“If sex is such a natural phenomenon,how come there are so many books on how to do it?”- Bette Midler