Welcome to the Enhancing Desire Blog

Christina Taylor publishes a regular blog discussing all things to do with mature relationships. She will discuss the multi-faceted and nuanced challenges one may face when pursuing romance and intimacy as a ‘grown-up’. Topics covered include re-kindling your sex life, communicating wants and desires with your partner, managing expectations and anything else that matters to you.

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The Surprising Impact Money Has on the Sex Lives of Older Women – Huffington Post

Independent ladies, we’ve got some really good news for you. A new study says that if you’re an older woman, one who is highly educated and earning a good income, chances are you’re having some of the most satisfying sex of your life. Research led by a McGill University doctoral candidate says that for women, […]

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You & Your Porn

The Reality of Porn Watching internet porn is a reality in many people’s lives – for both men and women. A British  2012 sex census found that 41 per cent of women and 76 per cent of men admitted to watching porn once a month or more, and that 19 per cent of women and 58 per cent of […]

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Implicit & Explicit Contracts

 “Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you can find one at the end of your arm” Audrey Hepburn Contracts –  Both Implicit and Explicit. All relationships are based on both explicit, open agreements and those that are suppressed and not normally discussed. Part of why you are with your partner is probably obvious […]


Marriage -Alain de Botton’s musings

IT’S one of the things we are most afraid might happen to us. We go to great lengths to avoid it. And yet we do it all the same: We marry the wrong person. Partly, it’s because we have a bewildering array of problems that emerge when we try to get close to others. We […]


Oral Sex – is it evolutionary?

Going Down today in the USA. Oral sex hasn’t always been acceptable to discuss in public. In 1997, the  Clinton – Lewinsky sex scandal shed light on the discrepancies that exist between oral sex and intercourse. The then 22-year-old White House intern kept in her possession a dress that still bore the semen stain that […]

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Infidelity- Renegotiating The Contract

We in the Western world tend to enter relationships with bankers, landlords, employers having looked at, and agreed to, a contract that is “a voluntary arrangement between two or more parties that is enforceable at law as a binding legal agreement”. However, we enter a form of relationship contract with our Other and assume, naively, […]

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What Gets Talked About In Sex Therapy?

We Have Mis-Matched Sexual Desires The most commonly reported problem in sex therapy is called ‘desire discrepancy’: one partner wants sex more often than the other and in a more erotic way. In the beginning of a relationship, the higher desire partner probably kept the erotic energy going in the marriage and it was fun […]

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Is sex addiction really an addiction??

Sex Addiction is in the news. In recent years sex addiction has found itself in the spotlight in the media and pop culture. Tiger Woods’ 2010 sex scandal culminated in an admission to struggling with sex addiction. Many films in the last 15 years have centered on sexual compulsiveness and addiction. Movies such as “I Am a […]

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The importance of ‘Afterplay’ in relationships

Foreplay and afterplay in relationships We are familiar with the term foreplay – but who talks about afterplay? What happens after sex in your relationship is as important as what precedes it – or even the act itself. Many see penetration or the act of orgasm as the “point” of sex or the “main course”. […]