It’s OK to ask for advice
Given the cultural upbringing and the inadequate sexual education that most people have experienced, experiencing a sexual problem is understandable. Additionally, we are bombarded by sexual content containing false information, unrealistic or unhealthy images and expectations which create potential difficulties in feeling good about our sex lives.
Most people at some stage in their lives experience sexual desire problems such as: loss of libido or desire for sex, lack of sexual enjoyment, difficulty experiencing orgasm, fear of sex, body image issues related to intimacy, erectile difficulties, compulsive sexual behaviours, pain, performance anxiety, mismatched sex drives in a relationship, or differences in sexual preferences.
Many of us assume that it won’t happen to us and, if it does, we then fear that the loss and embarrassment will last forever. As with many problems, however, resolution is speedier and there is less pain if you are armed with the necessary tools. It helps to talk openly about sexual concerns rather than suffering in silence; to learn to stop blaming yourself, be less defensive and more curious about resolving the problem. This is where a sex therapist can help.
In sex therapy, we address the root causes of sexual difficulties and find ways to modify them so you can resolve your sexual problems. Through education, counselling and proven sex therapy techniques, I can provide you with the knowledge, skills and strategies you need to make the changes necessary for you to achieve sexual health, wellbeing and better relationships.
When you come for sex therapy sessions either individually or as a couple our work together will generally involve two main objectives:
- Gaining clarity about the specific issues behind your problem.
- Choosing the appropriate strategies to help you overcome those issues and resolve your difficulties.
Our First Session
In our first sex therapy session, I will conduct an assessment of your situation by inviting you to talk about your sexual concerns and the changes you would like to make to improve your sex life.
We will then determine the course of action for our work together. We’ll discuss the most appropriate ways that we can ensure you achieve your goals towards having more fulfilling sexual experiences: individual or couples sessions, frequency of sessions, strategies, and referrals to other resources if needed.
Most clients say that they feel relief at the end of the first session. Getting your sexual concerns out in the open with a qualified professional, taking charge and finding out you are not alone in what you’re experiencing brings huge relief and a sense of hope that things can be different.
Subsequent Sessions
The following counselling sessions are about helping you understand the different factors that have contributed to developing and maintaining your sexual problems and finding ways to solve them. We’ll establish ways of helping you to take action and improve your sex and intimate life. From the start, I will provide the information you need for you to get a clearer picture on what’s going on and what factors might be keeping you today from resolving your situation.
As you have a better understanding of your situation, we will explore new ways of thinking, behaving or relating that will enable you to reach your therapy objectives.
Once you’re on your way to making the changes you want, the last step consists of consolidating these changes and making sure that you “stay on track”. I might suggest spacing out therapy sessions for a certain period, which would allow you to continue experiencing the positive changes that you have adopted while benefiting from support sessions.
Duration of Therapy
The duration of sex therapy depends on the nature of your problem, the type of objectives that you would like to set and your level of motivation in the therapeutic process. I will be more able to determine whether therapy will be short, medium or long term once the initial assessment has been completed. You can be assured that meeting your therapeutic objectives and getting relief from your discomfort is as important for me as it is for you since these are my main sources of professional satisfaction. And of course, it is always your choice to remain in therapy.
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Relationship Counselling & Sex Therapy
Level 4 Suite 16 , ‘Element’
200 Central Coast Highway Erina NSW 2250
Suite 2, 135 Vincent Street Cessnock, NSW 2325
0435 438 899